Anjuman I Islam's 1st Meeting - SKILLS FOR ADOLOSCENCE : 24th June 2012
Adolescence is a period of experimenting, experiencing and expanding. Adolescents need help and guidance in decision-making, problem solving, critical thinking, developing interpersonal skills, self-awareness, empathy, coping with stress and managing emotions. The Lions Quest Skills for Adolescence (SFA) Program is a good support system for adolescents at the community level. Keeping this goal in mind, the1st SFA meetingParent-Teacher Meeting was organized in Anjuman I Islam’s begum Sharifa Kalsekar Girls’ English school on24 the June2012.
This meeting was held to teach parenting skills and provide parents with skills to understand students' academic needs, including conflict management, adolescent development and effective ways to communicate with teachers and schools. The parentswere briefed about the S.F.A. program. Activities like how the right tools leads to self confidence and success, a get acquainted with one self activity and a group discussion on the joys and challenges of early adolescence were carried out with the parents. The parents were encouraged to participate in the activities. The parents also shared their experiences they had of the adolescence. The parents liked to talk about their past experiences as well.
Thus the most accurate predictor of a child's success in school is the degree to which their parents are involved in their education and theparents really felt the need of such a program in the schools is required in order to solve problems of adolescence and setgoalsaccordingly in the fast pacing world.
2nd Meeting - SKILLS FOR ADOLESCENCE : 24th September 2012
The second SFA Parents teacher meeting was held on 24 the September 2012 in the school premises. The topic for this meeting was “Improving Communication Skills”.Itis very important for parents to be able to communicate openly and effectivelywith their children. Open and effective communication benefits not only thechildren, but every member of the family. Relationships between parents and their children are greatly improved when there is effective communication takes place and thus it will build confidence among the children and allow them to share and flow of information more freely and thus build positive and healthy attitudes among themselves.
The meeting was started with a short prayer and the parents were welcomed. The previous meeting was reviewed by a power point presentation. Activities for the parents like get well acquainted with others was conducted Here the parents were given badges, the parent with the similar one had to sit together and discuss with themselves things that were common among them and later they were asked to come up and tell other parents. The parents in this way interacted with each other. Later the SFA teachers spoke to the parents about how they should communicate and how they should not communicate with the children in the form of speech, presentations, plays done by the students, you tube videos etc. The parents too shared their experience later.
Thus a positive communication was developed by the SFA teachers between parents and their children which will greatly help their children to establish individual values and to make healthy decisions for their future.
3rd Meeting - SKILLS FOR ADOLOSCENCE : 5th November 2012
Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship. After all, two people can’t be expected to agree on everything, all the time. Learning how to deal with conflict – rather than avoiding it – is crucial. When conflict is mismanaged, it can cause great harm to a relationship, but when handled in a respectful, positive way, conflict provides an opportunity to strengthen the bond between two people. By learning these skills for conflict resolution, you can keep your personal and professional relationships strong and growing. The 3rd SKILLS FOR ADOLOSCENCE meeting was held on-5thNovember2012.in the school auditorium. The topic was Solving family conflict with love and care. A power point presentation was shown to the parents on how one can resolve conflict with their children. A short skirt was performed by the students and later the parents were asked to solve these issues. The school councilor discussed a number of behavioral problems that she comes across in school and how she tries to council the student. The parents also shared their experiences with here as well as the teachers on what is to be done in different situation at home with their children.
The teachers concluded in this meeting that everyone needs to feel understood, nurtured, and supported, but the ways in which these needs are met vary widely. Differing needs for feeling comfortable and safe create some of the most severe challenges in our personal and professional relationships. But the parents’ need is to protect the child’s safety, so limiting exploration becomes a bone of contention between them
4th Meeting - SKILLS FOR ADOLOSCENCE : 14th February 2013
Adolescence is a time of new experiences and new opportunity. Some of the opportunity may involve pressure to use alcohol and other drugs Experimentation with alcohol and drugs during adolescence are common. Unfortunately, teenagers often don't see the link between their actions today and the consequences tomorrow. They also have a tendency to feel indestructible and immune to the problems that others experience. In the 4th meeting was held in school on 14 the February 2013, discussed about how children due to pressure start accepting drugs and how ones parents should take care of their children to prevent using this. Parents can prevent their children from using drugs by talking to them about drugs, open communication, role modeling, responsible behavior, and recognizing if problems are developing.Meeting was held in the school campus.
Parents view after SKILLS FOR ADOLOSCENCE
Parent 1
I have read the book the surprising years for understanding our changing adolescents. It has today become a guide for me. It has answered many of my questions now understand my daughter better. I make it a point to leave all my work aside and talk to my daughter when she comes back from school,so my daughter feels that there is someone who is waiting for me to share her joys sorrows etching thankful to SFA for implementing this program me
Parent 2
SKILL FOR ADOLOSCENCE programme has build a strong relationship between me and my daughter. I feel communication is one of the core elements for a relationship to solve any problems. This I came to know when I attended the 3rd SFA meeting. I now understand my daughter better. Earlier due to the house hold chores I hardly had time with my daughter which resulted in frequent arguments with my daughter but now now after attending the meeting I realized that if we sit together and discuss many problems can be solved. My daughter considers me as her best friend, I am grateful for this program me which has really created a bond between me and my daughter